Friday, February 27, 2009
"Three kids triangulate sibling relationships, with one child at any given point feeling like the odd man out from the chumminess of the other two" - NOT TRUE
OK...enough already. I'm a firm believer people have to be responsible for their own actions and NOT blame others for any shortcomings... I've heard so many times "oh, so you're the middle child" - and for lack of not knowing any better and really sounding ignorant, I just shrug and go along with their ridiculous comment...I really never researched what "middle child syndrome is"....
I just don't believe, or fall in the category that "Thus many middle children grow up with a more relaxed attitude towards life than their older siblings; though they have to compete for family attention against the milestones set by the oldest, and growing up in their shadow. Middle children have to try a little harder to “be heard” or get noticed. The middle child usually has to fight harder for the attention of their parents and therefore crave the family spotlight. They may feel that they do not get as much praise as the older children for simple firsts like tying a shoe or riding a bike. Those things just become expected." AGAIN...NOT TRUE!
So, do I praise my parents or mother (Mom was a sudden widow at 41 years old) for me not feeling this way? I guess I should. Having grown up the "middle child" of three girls was a blessing to me. I was the one that shared the bedroom with my eldest or youngest, I "think" I liked it this way, I honestly can't remember. In reflecting on other families who I know their "middle" child, I can't put them in the same category as the common "middle child syndrome" either!
OK...so I've been thinking (and worrying)...did we screw up having just one child? I had to read up on "only child" syndrome... well, there is much controversy on that as well... although they say it may be an advantage...whatever it is...it is... my son (unless by a miracle that would put me on the front page of the "Daily News") will stay an only child...and if I'm to be blamed later in life.... oh well...maybe someday he'll "Blog" and say it's not true as well...sort of "hope so"!
Tuesday, February 24, 2009
I find the entire Lenten season fascinating. From the customs of balls, parades at carnival celebrations in New Orleans and Rio de Janiero where eating, drinking and dancing is the custom - and how it all leads into Holy Week where the customs are so different all over the world. Tomorrow is Ash Wednesday, Ash Wednesday marks the beginning of the Season of Lent. It is a season of penance, reflection, and fasting which prepares us for Christ's Resurrection on Easter Sunday, through which we attain redemption.
But....am I crazy or does it seems like we JUST celebrated Christmas yesterday!
Monday, February 23, 2009
Do you remember when "The Wizard of Oz", "The Sound of Music", "Rudolf the Red Nose Reindeer" and many more classic movies used to be on TV only once a year? We all knew the date, it was a family event - if you missed it, you had to wait until the following year when it was featured again. Maybe that's why the Oscars and other award events are so exciting....they are ONLY on once a year. Well, so is the Super Bowl.... but that just doesn't do it for me. "To each his own" Our accessibility of watching anything at anytime is a convenience, but it does take away from that great anticipation we used to share. Something our kids just can't relate to.
It sort of falls in the category of seeing a digital picture the second you take the picture... "instant gratification". That's a topic for another blog...."instant gratification"
But, I'm actually happy to be tired from watching the Oscars... and Hugh Jackman - you were just terrific!
Saturday, February 21, 2009
10. He doesn't exploit his son or private life...it's kept private, but we can all tell how much he loves his son Harry, who is named after his own father.
9. He's a quiet philanthropist.
8. He's loyal, original, and just VERY funny.
7. During the last writers strike, David paid his staff their salaries out of his own pocket. Jon Stewart (another favorite) followed.
6. He truly loves his mother Dorothy, she's fun for him to "poke" at ~ but you can tell she's been his rock.
5. He's a proud crazy Liberal. Most (or many) in the media are...but don't come out as openly about it!
4. I look for those stupid white socks every show... I understand he wears a new pair every show.
3. My favorite episode was when Senator McCain admitted to screwing up when he lied to David about skipping his show...weeks after bailing on him to do a different interview!
2. Before his quintuple heart bypass surgery (Jan. 2000), he had not missed a day due to illness in his 18 years of late-night.
1. And the newest trivial bit of fun information is ... Phil's Uncle's daughter (from his first marriage) is David Letterman's "assistant" on the show... he's been fly fishing with David at his ranch in Montana.... (I hate name droppers....but it did make our Thanksgiving dinner conversation very fun).... and we've been told we can get tickets whenever we want. Stephanie is often referred to as "Smitty," "Monty," "Gunter," and "Dutch.", most recently David calls her "Vicky"... and David Letterman paid for her to go to law school - another reason I like him!
Thursday, February 19, 2009
Today, while at a convention in Atlantic City... I was so inspired when I noticed a new vendor table ... "Donate Life" A relatively new "not-for-profit" organization who's goal is to bring awareness to the vast majority who are not registered donors.
Did you know that:
- Nearly 93,000 men, women and children are currently waiting for life-saving transplants
- Every 12 minutes another name is added to the National Transplant Waiting List
- An average of 18 people die each day from the lack of available organs for transplants
- 90% of Americans say they support donation, but only 30% know the essential steps to be a donor through registering to be donors through their state registry or motor vehicle department (DMV).
Kidneys are the most common organ donated by living donors. Other organs that can be donated include a lobe of a lung, partial liver, pancreas or intestine. Donated tissues such as skin, bone and heart valves can dramatically improve the quality of life for recipients, and even save lives.
So, finding a cause that "grabbed me" I spent a significant amount of time learning about "Donate Life" and what we need to do to spread awareness. I remember standing with my son when he was getting his licence at the DMV and he was totally not aware of the choice he had about being an organ donor... if I was not with him I sense he may not have registered to be an organ donor.... he, like most 17 year olds do not understand the significance and what an important decision this is.... I sense it's never been discussed and they are not aware (getting OUT of the DMV with their licence in hand is all they are focusing on.... remember being 17)???
Apparently "Donate Life" is now making visits to high schools to bring awareness to students so they are prepared and know what an impact they can make by thinking of this choice of being a donor before they are in the DMV.
If you are interested in learning more about "Donate Life" please visit their website at: http://www.donatelife.net/ where you can also register through your state to be a donor! I'll be proudly wearing this lapel pin and a new bright lime green wrist band...
Monday, February 16, 2009
Saturday, February 14, 2009
Friday, February 13, 2009
Maybe I can blame the food network for my obsession with cooking... it's on 24/7 (well, that's not true, they are off the air at 4 AM until 7 AM)...
The title "foodie" is the new term for what people used to refer to as a "gourmet"... is to be interested in food as much as eating it. If we are interested in food, and love to go to a speciality shop for 1 ingredient or will experiment to make something "just a little better".... it's just what makes us tick! Don't confuse a food lover....or "foodie" as a snob who is judgemental. Now, to set the record straight... I drink a cup of instant coffee every morning... I hate to drag out my food processor or kitchen aid, I don't like recipes with more than 6-8 ingredients.... oh, and my husband and I both had gastric bypass.... so how can anyone call me a "foodie"... maybe I should stop talking so much about food....well that is until I get my "dream" job of working on the food network...for now working at Williams Sonoma will just have to satisfy that!
Wednesday, February 11, 2009
Sunday, February 8, 2009
But this morning, I realized that Bobby Flay and I had something in common... (imagine that). He talked about his first cooking memory....and it's mine as well:
Making chocolate pudding on top of the stove!
How fascinated I was when it began to "thicken" and make big fat bubbles.... how hard it was to have to put into the fridge and wait for it to cool... it was a "favorite" family desert. My one grandmother used to always have it ready for us when we went to visit her.
My love for cooking goes way back....and I can't say it was from spending hours in the kitchen with my mother or grandmothers, or any family members. You see, the Irish made sure you were well fed, and holidays were always special...but there are absolutely NO gourmet genes to be found. My one Uncle married someone very Italian, going to their house and having her sauce or as she would say "gravy" and eggplant was such a treat.
So.... back to the My*T*Fine Pudding... as it turns out, it's one of my son's favorite deserts as well, not the instant, the one that forms the skin on it. So just coming from the grocery store (a Sunday ritual).... I actually bought a few boxes (to have in my pantry) and it will still fascinate me when it starts to thicken....and it will still be hard to have to put it in the refrigerator and wait for it to cool.... now I just have to wait for my son to come home from college to cook it and enjoy it .... and well, that's another story - waiting for your kid to come home from college!
Friday, February 6, 2009
Stroke is the #3 cause of death in women!
Know the symptoms of a heart attack and stroke, and seek medical attention promptly. Heart disease in women does claim many lives each and every year but the disease can be manageable and preventable. Women need to study and learn as much as they can. They need to be educated. Not many women know that they have such a high probability of getting the disease. All women need to know that they have a greater risk of getting the disease than men. By understanding and knowing this, women will have a step up on this horrible disease and, maybe one day, heart disease in women will be a thing of the past.
Thursday, February 5, 2009
Okay... it was January of 2005 when I had to have a "different" New Year's Resolution... and starting ANOTHER failed diet was not an option (and I knew I was in the lineup for gastric bypass).... so I did what I wanted to do for a long time .... I branched out of my "comfort zone" and started a "book group". Both of my sisters already belonged to a group, I was envious and told that their "groups"... (I just can't call it a club) were "full" and since they had been "invited" they could not ask if I could join (hmm, imagine that, being "disked" by your sisters) ~ So, I decided if I'm to initiate this, I'm asking women who I find "opinionated, honest and fun," and people throughout the years I've enjoyed to "talk" to ~ more than on a "superficial level". We started small, just 4 of us, and within a year we were a "full fledged" group of 7 women. We LOVE each other and all cherish our gatherings.... we try and meet every 6 weeks, we rotate, have a fun menu of appetizers and deserts... (and of course vino)... and our "steadfast" rule is like Vegas.... "what's discussed in our reading group.... stays in our reading group" - and trust me, we are NOT tacky and do not thrive on gossip.... We do our share of talking about our kids...but it's time to reflect amongst ourselves... lots of laughs (LOTS)... some tears and mostly unconditional support where you NEVER feel judged and everyone accepts everyone for whom they are!
So....if you belong to a reading group... I hope you enjoy it as much as I have.... and if you have not yet joined a reading group... I encourage you to start one.... there is much interest out there... now....one small detail I forgot to mention.... we DO TRY and talk about the book we selected......."well, sometimes that is"
Monday, February 2, 2009
Sunday, February 1, 2009
I'm all for a good reason or actually "no" reason to have a party. Is there any such a thing as "healthy" Super Bowl food? I could hardly get my cart down the isle they sell nachos in! For us Northeasterners... not as exciting as last year Giants vs Patriots... Both my husband and son are football fans.... if only there were truly NO MORE games after today!